Intellectual Property Law

mother in law?

what would you do if you were me ? my mother in law hate me for no reason she just hate me whatever i do she don't like it ... she is too nosy she tell everyone in the family about our promblem or our bussiness and when she come to my house she look through my stuff she very nosy and one time she let my husband ex girlfrined in her house and my mother in law told stuff about us to ex girlfriend ... and when ever my husband and i go somewhere with my mother in law like people says hi to her know her and they ask who we were she don't say that im her duag in law but when my sister in law their she says ohh she my daug in law to my sister in law only not me , BUT my sister in law don't like my mother in law she hate her so much and she don't even call her or visti her but she always talk about her .. i told her that my sisther in law don't like you she don't call you or visti you cuz of the way you are and my mother in law talk LOUD i hate it ..and my husband know that she hate me i just tell my mother in law to leave me alone and not to bother calling me but she still bother my always calling never leave me alone so i stop calling , and visting her she very mean ! oh yes my husband always on my side he dont' let his mom harm me at all !

Public Comments

1. Yeah, that's some pretty serious stuff...
2. funny story. my brother-in-law doesn't tell his mother where he lives. it's because my brother-in-law has 3 sisters, each of the sisters has children, and his mother wrecked all three of their marriages. They bring their children over all the time for him and my sister to babysit.
3. WELCOME to the world of MIL's They suck sometimes. Some MILs more than others. And they all think DIls aren't good enough. What matters is if your husband backs you up on these issues. If he does, you can bear through the couple of times you have to see her. If he doesn't it's a REAL problem. You can also ask him to be the one to always talk with his mom , so you don't have to do it.
4. I say treat her like she treats you, or just advoid her at all cost, I wouldn't go around anyone that treated me badly, and if I did I sure would not lay down and let them walk all over me.
5. Can you change your phone or get caller ID and turn off the message machine when she calls you. I would say Mom we need to get along for your sons sake.. so when she says off handed things, tell her right out that it hurts you and you do not half to listen to her gossip or her meanness. I had this in reverse My DIL was doing something similar to my son all the time. I told her if she wanted to get along with me Don't lie to my son or me and then I will respect you and love you. We get along great now that I confronted her and she cut the crap out. Love her a lot now just like my own kid. Hope this helps
6. Stand up for yourself. Tell her to leave you alone, mind her buisness and tell her to NEVER EVER go through your things again. Your husband should stand up for u. He needs to tell his mother its not OK, for her disrespect you. Your mother in law does these things because she gets away with it. You don't deserve that. Your mother in law is a negative person. Avoid her as much as possible. When you must see her be nice, but say the least amount of words to her without being impolite. Good Luck.
7. The best thing you can do, is what you are already doing, and that is cutting off all communication between the two of you.
8. My in-laws do not like me, and if something goes wrong while I'm around somehow it is always my fault. It used to really bug me and I was really mad at them and even told my mother in law off which caused a BIG stink. It's been 3 years now and I've just come to realize over the holidays this year that no matter what I do they just won't ever like me and that's okay. I cannot expect my husband to disrespect his parents they raised him and I love him with all my heart I don't think I could ever give him an ultimatum. All I can do is just be a good wife and mom to my children. I can just learn how to treat my kid's future partners because I would never wish that on another person. I'm not ugly to them anymore I've had to get over that. If they call I will just not answer and let my husband get it. And as for visiting, because they live out of town I just decided I will not put myself in a position to be treated like poop from them anymore and so I will tell my husband he can take the kids and I stay home. I give him an option to make up an excuse if that makes it easier on him I just frankly don't care anymore. My husband loves me and that's all the approval I need.
9. Oh you so need to have fun with this woman. Don't shy away and make her leave you alone. Go be her best friend. Be overly nice, overly helpful. That will drive her nuts. I did that to my mother inlaw. I am nice and now all these yrs later she loves me. Try the overly helpful and nice thing let me know how it goes
10. Your husband needs to put her in her place. Regardless of the fact if she likes you or not... guess what? You two are married and if you let her get between your marriage you two will never work. Your husband needs to talk to his mother and he needs to tell her that either she needs to respect you or you all will have nothing to do with her and if you have children that they won't either. He needs to let it be known that her behavior won't be tolerated or you need to leave him. He needs to stand up for his family!